The right Kathy

Today is our 8^th wedding anniversary. I was thinking back to when we met, and I realized that I had never written down our ‘story’. So, in celebration of 8 years together, it’s time to put it in writing so that Chris and Nate will be able to tell their kids someday. It finally doesn’t bother me to tell how we met, but believe me, we both hated to tell people what brought us together. What were the odds of meeting your spouse totally randomly via the computer?

I remember the day well, because it was exactly two weeks after 9/11. I was teaching first grade, and had actually come home a bit early that day because I just wasn’t feeling good. The beginning of the school year is always very stressful, plus for the 2 weeks prior everyone wondered what was going to happen with our world. I had just bought myself an I-Mac computer (the big blue bubble kind) so I could check email at home. I logged on to AOL.

On the other side of the country, Dan was at home, continuing his job search. 9 months prior he had visited Oregon to visit his college buddy, Carrington, and fell in love with the city of Portland, and all that the Pacific NW has to offer. He returned to Tampa, Florida, and had decided that he was definitely going to move west, too. The planning started for this move across country, but the first priority would be for him to find a job. With the new-fangled thing called the 'internet,' Dan could research companies and search online. But job hunting (while on the opposite side of the country) in the high end construction field was not easy, especially while our country was in crisis---nobody was hiring or even willing to talk. Dan was networking with whomever he could, because you just never know.

Someone that he had been in contact with had given him a lead~ he needed to get in touch with a woman Kathy at the Inskeep Foundation…she’s a teacher. That’s all the information that he had to go off of, but he was going to track her down and network with her .

I was online/checking email at home when an instant message popped up. In that little box was some message from a screen name of ‘burnsfood’. He had done a search for ‘kathy’ and ‘teacher’…of course, my profile popped up because I am ‘kathy’ and a ‘teacher’. He asked if I by chance worked at this foundation. I said no, wrong Kathy. He told me that he was planning to move to Portland soon, and was job-hunting/networking. His words seemed nice enough, so we had a little exchange. He asked a few things about Portland.

The next day we could see that each other were online again at the same time. More I.M.’s were exchanged, and more personality came out. We would occasionally check in online, and from that little text box in the lower right hand corner of the screen, a relationship was blooming. We sent each other pictures of ourselves (this was of course, before there was social networking like Facebook) Even today, when I hear the greeting sound on AOL I go right back to those typewritten conversations back in 2001. You have to remember, online dating was just barely happening, and at that point only the ‘weird people’ would admit to looking for or finding for love on the computer.

Well, communicating without the spoken word can only happen so long. Dan eventually asked if he could have my phone number, and give me a call so that we could talk. After the first time we talked, I knew that he was the real deal. He was planning a trip in the next month to do some interviewing….we would get to meet each other in person.

Dan came to Portland for several days in early November to follow-up with some interviews, etc. and we met. We had such a great time together. Since we had spoken almost each day for almost a month prior to when we actually met, we felt like we already knew each other quite well. When he left to fly back to Tampa, I knew in my gut that this was the person that I was going to get married to. I think he knew, too. He spent the next month doing his final prep/wrapping up things in Tampa in order to get ready to move across the country.

Dan loaded up his Jeep Cherokee and headed out west in December. He had a room waiting for him at his friend Alex’s house. He settled into the life of an Oregonian, and life was good. He found a job, we moved in together, and a wedding proposal happened on the one year anniversary of the day we met face-to-face. (November 4^th) We then got married the following March 22, 2003 at McMenamins Grand Lodge with a small group of about 40 of our closest friends and family.

We always laugh that he may not have found the other Kathy, but he did find the right Kathy.